Coming out as Bi/Gay in 2021

 You hear of people who come out as Bi or Gay getting disowned by the family and friends. This makes them scared of coming out. A classic example of this was me, I am Bi. I came out in 2019 in support of me niece who came out as a Lesbian. She got some crap for it but you can not help who you are. I have noticed myself that some people who I thought was friends do not speak to me now.

This you should expect if you think you are gay/bi. I am lucky. I have a sister who understands and supports me, and of course my niece. My sisters other children also know and accept it. Even her boyfriend does. Everyone else in my family though does not.

There is help if you are thinking of coming out. One group on Facebook, LGBTQ+ Hangout is a good place to go if you need support. The people there are very easy going, and if you need help then there are a lot of people there who have been or going through what you are going through.

I know from personal experience it is hard to come out, but it is better to be happy with yourself then think you have to be "normal". If you loose friends, you will make new ones. the LGBTQ+ community is a very accepting bunch of people.

I am friends with a Lesbian here in my home town. I can talk to her about anything and everything. I met her on the Facebook group above. She knows I am not after dating her, but just friends. This is more important to me than anything else. You will find someone who is accepting of who you are also.

If you take one thing away from this post, it is to be yourself. If you are not happy in your own skin then what is the point. If family or friends stop speaking to you as a result of you being yourself then it is there loss.